Is Showing Weakness A Sign Of Weakness?

"You shall not cry in front of others."

"You shall always remain calm in the face of provocative adversity."

"You shall show to people that you're happy even when you're not."

Because being happy makes people think that you have a perfect life and that you're doing well. *rolls eyes*

So much for happiness. I often wondered why we take the pains to display our happiness so openly even when we're miserable inside. I asked myself, "Are you truly happy, Shaza?"

The answer is no.

I'm not truly happy. Why then do I have the need to display my happiness in such a way that will make people think that I'm enjoying the fuck out of life?

Pride. That's why. I have my pride. I felt the need to tell the world,

"HEY IM OK. 10 YEARS OF MY LIFE WENT DOWN THE DRAINS BUT HEY IM STILL ROCKING IT MAN COZ IM COOL LIKE THAT."

Bullshit.

Does strength really mean that you keep everything bottled up inside and not display any sign of contempt or emotions?

Does happiness mean that you got to share every fucking interesting thing that happens to you?

Does intelligence mean you have to prove yourself right to other people all the time?

To the first question, my opinion is a paradox in itself. I think it's very important to have some sort of reign over your emotions because if we run with it, we may just end up in a ditch BUT it's also very important to express your emotions, thoughts, and opinions because keeping it all inside is unhealthy. The challenge here is to strike a balance between the two and to do it in a manner that will not cause long-term rift or damage. If you disagree with a person's opinion, you can either agree to disagree and leave it at that or explain to the person why you disagree. If you dislike what a person is doing, speak up and explain why you're not ok with what they're doing. If a person pisses you off, show them that you're pissed in your own way (with your body-language or with stern words) then walk away to avoid a fight. News flash: it doesn't make you a coward to walk away from fights. In fact, it makes you a more mature person. I think fighting is a fucking waste of time, to be honest, and it drains me whenever I get into a fight with anyone which is why I avoid it like the plague.

*sips coffee, gets distracted by something and returns to writing*

It's in human nature to want to share things with people we love about the exciting things that are happening in our lives but in this age where over-sharing has become the norm, we need to consider pulling the handbrake on what we share, especially on social media and the Internet. Unfortunately, the more we share, the more information we're giving to people about our lives and I, for one, think that this serves as leverage for others to judge us based on what they see and no one likes to be judged unless of course, you're like me which means you don't give a damn about people's opinion unless those people actually matter to you (I used to care but I think it's the age and experience that turned me into a you-are-a-waste-of-my-time-so-im-gonna-ignore-you asshole). This is rare because in this world one stupid comment can turn people into total idiots. Having said that, I speak directly now to those who think it's their god-forsaken right to make non-factual assumptions based on what they see and not what they know, who the fuck do you think you are?

Moving on to the last but I think the most important point - does strength in character means you have to prove yourself right to other people all the time? No, you don't, even when you feel the need to, you don't need to. I'll tell you why. See, people will think what they want to think and no matter how you try to prove yourself right - they will always have something to say about it at the end of the day if they don't fancy your opinion. Also, needing to always prove yourself right to others can be mentally and emotionally consuming. If you feel the need to argue every single fucking time someone tells you you're wrong or disagrees with your opinion - you got an ego problem, mate. Fix that and you'll fix the rest.

This all comes down to one thing - fuck what people think of you. Believe it when I say you can't make everyone happy and if you live to make people happy instead of yourself, you'll be living a very sad life indeed. By the time you realise it, you'd be old and grumpy. We don't want that, do we? We don't want to be on our death bed thinking if only we had commandeered our ship instead of being just another crew in a ship commandeered by another? Live. We have but one life.

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